During family crises, children are absorbing everything—not just words, but emotions, behaviors, and the message about what relationships can be. How we navigate these moments shapes them for life.
Young children need simple, honest reassurance that they are not the cause and are still loved. Older children can understand more complexity but still need the reassurance of your presence and stability.
Keep routines consistent. Show up for bedtime. Attend their events. These small acts communicate that despite the chaos around them, their world is still solid and they are still the priority.
One of the most damaging mistakes parents make is using children to relay messages or keep secrets from the other parent. This puts them in an impossible position and betrays their trust.
Children learn how to handle difficult situations by watching you. If they see honesty, respect, and genuine attempts at resolution, they learn that hard things can be navigated with integrity.